Thursday, March 1, 2012

The Art of "Proper" Love per CNN's Piers Morgan in Piers Morgan Tonight and author Joseph Dispenza in Older Man/Younger Man: A Love Story

The Art of "Proper" Love... asked by CNN's Piers Morgan and written about by author Joseph Dispenza in Older Man/Younger Man: A Love Story

Shadows of Love. Copyright 2011 by Alina Oswald. All Rights Reserved.
Now that February is over, can we still talk about love? Is love still a timely topic? That brings up the important question (and I mean it):

"How many times have you been properly in love?" The question CNN's Piers Morgan always asks on his show, Piers Morgan Tonight, may sound funny, but, thinking about it, it is, indeed, a vital question. Love is, after all, an intrinsic part of life. (Also, I do confess, I'm a fan of AC360 and Piers Morgan; while enjoying the British accent, I'm always waiting for the "proper" love question to come up, usually towards the end of the show.)

But Piers Morgan's question brings up more questions:

Is "proper" love a timeless matter or only pertaining to the month of February, in particular around or on Valentine's Day?

If there is such thing as "proper" love, is such love actually possible? 

And, most importantly: What exactly is "proper" love?

Maybe I should have reversed the order of the questions, but wanted to leave the best for last...
Let's attempt to figure out "proper" love...

First of all, while many countries celebrate love on Valentine's Day, others remember love in March, for example, March 1st, to be precise.  Therefore, the timeless element of love.

Love at Sunset. Copyright 2010 by Alina Oswald. All Rights Reserved.
To answer the rest of the questions, read Joseph Dispenza's memoir, Older Man/Younger Man: A Love Story. I truly enjoyed this wonderful book and wrote a short review, which was originally published in A&U Magazine.

Here's my review of Dispenza's Older Man/Younger Man: A Love Story. Hope you'll enjoy the read and the book.

Thanks for visiting,

    by Joseph Dispenza
    Review by Alina Oswald
        "How many times have you ever been properly in love?" CNN host Piers Morgan's question is being asked quite often these days. Yet, to answer the question... properly, one may first have to define "proper love."
        It sounds funny, right? But the few lucky enough to experience it may agree that proper love can be the kind that conquers all. Is that possible? Just ask author Joseph Dispenza.
        Love is the protagonist in his memoir, Older Man/Younger Man: A Love Story, which recounts the author's relationship with a man thirty years his junior. Older Man/Younger Man is a candid, compelling story of self-discovery and coming out to oneself and the world, in which elements defining us as human beings capable of love take center stage--weaknesses and fears, courage, self-doubt and self-acceptance, trust and honesty, and also hope.
        Love--the kind Dispenza portrays in his latest book--is a multidimensional love that, indeed, wins the strength to conquer all, while (or maybe because) it defies society norms, redefining them. It's the kind of love that transcends time, but is it strong enough to survive it?
        Time--or lack thereof--has a multilayered symbolism, intrinsic to Older Man/Younger Man's story and, by extension, to any journey through life and love, as part of life. In Older Man/Younger Man time defines the characters' intergenerational relationship and also a present (time) brave enough to adjust society's views to allowing relationships once considered unconventional (be that based on age or gender) become conventional.
        Maybe the main characteristic of time is defined by the limits it imposes on our physical existence. The threat of this realization weaves through the story of Older Man/Younger Man, amplified by a life-threatening disease that touches one of the characters.
        Yet, facing mortality enriches true, "proper" love, giving it the strength to conquer all. That strength and other attributes shine through in Older Man/Younger Man, a touching story and profound lesson in the surprises of life and power of love.


  1. This is fantastic. You have such amazing and poignant posts, Alina. Let's see...proper love? What a great question to ponder. Proper, I think, as well as love, is in the mind of the beholder, I think (yes, I said 'mind' - 'eye' just seemed passé). My partner is 13 years older than me, and it's amazing the jaw-dropping I get when I tell people this. I can't imagine a 30 year difference. But you know what? It's love, isn't it? As long as it's within appropriate measures (15 and 45 is not appropriate, for example, at least in my eyes), then so be it. When I was 23 I dated a man who was 47. Not love, per se, but a great connection. It truly depends on the people, I believe that whole-heartedly. I could go on and on. Thought-provoking as usual, Alina! :)

  2. Hi Sean, WOW! Found your wonderful comment waiting for me :-) What a way to start the day and new week! Appreciate your praise (always :-)) and you sharing your thoughts on proper love. And I do agree... While I don't think we can live on love, alone, I do believe we cannot survive without it, though. Finding your soul-mate is important. We should not take true (proper) love for granted, though. As for age difference, agree again. As long as we stay within legal age limits, it's really a personal taste. It goes in that category with the sex, color, height and weight of the person you fall for... nobody's business but your own (and that person's of course :-)) Also, agree again, "love" is a quite complex word. Sometimes we don't get (have time or take the time) to try to tackle all its layers.

    Thanks again! And a wonderful week ahead to you :-)
    Much appreciated,